2.) I think that being married to a SEAL would be closely related to being married to a cop or firefighter. Yes, I know there are huge differences but there are many similarities. Many wives of firefighters and cops are raising the kids mostly by themselves because of scheduling and they also have the fear of the job taking their husband. The husbands also tend to carry around a lot of information that they either can't share or it is just too difficult to do so. In my opinion, it takes a very strong, independent woman (my mom or your Ally!)to do this!
Going back to my dreaded work pile!
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