Just gave a brief overview of that night. I DO NOT ADVISE ANYONE DO SAME AS I DID. Ah - I do not go into things lightly, I had the cell phone on 911 ready to go and will not discuss the rolling pin handy . My thought, not to provoke violence nor participate, not to punch back, but if it came to voilence I let him get one in then I could have him booked danno! That was the one trip I was there and felt I could do something - take it out of her hands for one decision and have a record started. The rest was up to them.
I definitely bow to the advice/instructions you provide. Those were my experiences. You have a form of legal control over your children until they are 18, you have control over yourself and then all you can do is take care of number 1 to be in a position to help others, help being the operative work there.
Sorry again for giving you the willies.