I've used "lets" probably thousands of times just like Simone. But my marriage is in no way a dictatorial one or anything like it. We're on equal footing. I'm way too independent to "let" someone else call the shots.
(Watch, I'll probably say it again really soon and not even notice I said it, it's just that much of a habit. Sorry in advance. But if you catch me saying something and not being clear, please let me know.)
Take care,
Tracy