My husband is very sweet, very kind. He's never hit me, never abused me verbally (and knows that I would leave him in a heartbeat if that happened.) I grew up with brothers and their friends who would openly say "never hit a girl", so I've been preprogrammed to think this way and there's no way I'd be that kind of victim.
I agree with Deborah and Sheri, that marriage is a compromise and you don't want cause any unrest. so maybe, subconciously, if I use the words 'he lets me' then I don't feel like an unsupportive b*tch and take off on him for the weekend to go dancing with my pals. sure, I need to get over that. working on it right now. ;)
when he lets me (and it's not his word, it's mine) it means he doesn't give me any type of hassle when I play softball 5 nights a week (well, one night with him), and go out on the weekends with friends (and I have a bunch of them so I have a lot of weekends spent away from home) - in general I spend a lot more time away from home than there. He goes out with me once in a while, but it's not his scene to dance the night away so he stay home and watches baseball/hockey/whatever's on TiVo. believe me, we're not that couple who sticks to each other like glue, but we've got our moments. lots of them too.
and I guess it would sound weird if I LET him go golfing every Saturday. But there's an implied consent thing there, right? If I wanted him to stay with me for a good reason that day (good friend's wedding, family birthday party, etc.) then he would bend to my will. ha ha
ok, with all that said...thanks for sticking up for me anyway. ;) don't stop questioning stuff like that, because we all need a reality check once in a while.
and you never answered my question, what's with the QMIH?