I thought you made some very good points. And maybe it's just a philosophical difference between you and me. But I really think that the priorities have to be more distinctly defined. It has to do wtih planning. Every decision can't be equal with all the others because then you have nothing to help you decide what you do first.
And when it comes to the decision to take another life, those priorities will help in that decision. Knowing those priorities, and planning what one would do, are both essential. You can't plan without priorities.
Using your example, I need to take care of myself first, because if I'm not functioning, I can't take care of my family. Next, I would take care of my loved ones (in my case, it's my husband and kids). But even then, there's a priority - my relationship with my husband - cuz my kids are leaving someday and I still want him around. After that, it would be my extended family. Then friends, then others.
Each of the human lives above are important. But I have to set priorities so that I can make decisions about my actions in a split second when I need to.
I don't know what else has been said on the board. I'm just opening the responses to my posts because of my time crunch. But I think those priorities and how you plan for those decisions are what drives us to do what we do. I'm sorry I don't have more time for this discussion cuz it really interests me.
Take care!