the perception of hearing it or feeling it or it being one person over the other -it's not at all even about me,...lol I merely used that as an example - and it clearly totally confused the issue here.
one more try - what I was speaking to was simply about the success (in terms of both parties) of the process being based on/depending on a mutally shared definition...of the word!
and now that we have totally intellectualized this- I give!!! lol